Recently I read an article from the UK on how “2.5 million men have no close friends.”
Fifty percent of them have two or less friends, while 1 in 8 said they have no close friends they could to turn to in times of need.
This really piqued my interest, especially when thinking of my crew from About Men Radio.
We were all friends early in our lives — some of us from grade school and then through high school and college.
After that, many of us went off in different directions to pursue careers, marriages, family, kids, etc.
Twenty-plus years later, we have reunited as a group and have picked up our friendships just where we left off.
What makes this article about us men having few or no close friends really hit home is when I think about how many close male friends I’ve had in the interim.
The friendships are very few and not the lasting friendships like the ones fostered from when we were kids.
So, can I be considered to be part of this group of men that do not have close friends?
It seems that being married and raising a family definitely has limited the time and desire to make lasting friendships with other men.
Now that my kids are older, I have found that I allow myself to foster more male bonding with some work friends and some dads who have kids who are friends with my kids. (It makes it easier.)
Twenty-one years at the same place of employment also helped to allow me to build some good friendships of both men and women, but again nothing like the relationships that I have with the About Men group.
What is it that makes these older relationships stand the test of time while the newer friendships typically fade without much consequence and we can easily live without them?
I will be interested to know what others in my age bracket think and what experiences they’ve had with friendships over the years.
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