This is an accounting of what unfolded on Facebook when I thought I had escaped Daddy Jeans Syndrome. Read on: Was going to brag that I spurned the Daddy jeans look but then was told that these are Daddy shorts. Sigh. What is your opinion? Do I need to go all Richard Simmons? Matt Smith unless … revising essays
Partly because Pedro is in the Witness Protection Program, half his face needed to be concealed. Blocking him is Richard Rodriguez. And in front of him is Silvio La Frossia. John O’Connell is on the left and Chris Mele on the right.
Not sure this is entirely the fault of autocorrect or John’s fumble fingers. Either way, the results are unintentionally funny. And thankfully, we speak “John.”
On my cellphone, under contacts, is a listing labeled “boys.” The contact is an artifact of 10 years ago when my sons got a cellphone for emergencies. It was a flip phone that they shared since they both went to the same school. Then they were ages 12 and 7. Today, of course, they are … Continue reading From Boys to Men
My son enjoys watching a TLC TV series called “My Strange Addiction.” I’ve never seen it but a quick look at its website reveals bizarre stories of a woman who drinks air freshners (yes, you read that correctly) and a guy who is addicted to looking like Justin Bieber. My addiction is nowhere near as … Continue reading Cookie Monster Confessions
This photo has a peculiar history. Chris Mele and John O’Connell (looking like they just walked off the cover of GQ magazine) were attending a speech and debate contest at the Bronx High School of Science around 1981. They happened to photobomb this girl, who was getting her picture snapped for the high school’s yearbook. … Continue reading Throwback Thursday at About Men Radio
So what is it about the bad boys you ladies like so much? Is it the thrill of dating the boy you know your family will hate? Is it the wild sex? Or is it the challenge of trying to tame the apparently untameable; of changing the bad boys into nice guys? Please don’t let … Continue reading Bad Boys, Bad Boys, Whatchoo Gonna Do?
As I stroll down a hallway, an 8-foot mechanized cyborg passes by me. Resting in a semi-seated position and staring into a smartphone is a unicorn-headed half human. Further down I see a line of droids ambling away. And wait! Was that Stan Lee?! Did I just bring you into one of my alcohol-induced dreams? … Continue reading MegaCon: The Family That CosPlays Together…
If you think watching “Mad Men” is a time warp, you’ve got to watch the FX TV series “The Americans.” The show, which just wrapped up its third season, is a delight for those of us who came of age in the 1980s. For the uninitiated, the series’ plot centers on a husband and wife … Continue reading “The Americans”: A Great 80s Throwback
Richard Rodriguez, Silvio La Frossia and Christopher Mele — all about 17 years old? I am pretty sure our hair was not that big and that it was merely a shadow in the background. At least I hope so!
In October 1986, baseball history had been made and Chris Mele and I were ready to experience a ticker-tape parade in the Canyon of Heroes in Lower Manhattan for the World Series Champion New York Mets. We were men with a plan: Chris was going to meet me on Park Row by City Hall, where … Continue reading Let’s Go Mets! Recalling the 1986 Ticker-Tape Parade
I promised myself I wasn’t gonna get too emotional about the sequel but the last scene of this second official “Star Wars: The Force Awakens” teaser trailer made me pump my fist. Can’t wait to see this movie with the little ones!
Not entirely sure when this was shot, but I think it would have been about 1985. The photo’s been a bit warped over time, just like the subjects in the photo. No idea what Gary is doing on Pedro’s shoulders, what John is singing or what Chris is doing holding a mallet. And the Santas … Continue reading Throwback Thursday at About Men Radio
“Are you feeling depressed?” the nurse asked. She was taking my vitals before the doctor came into the examination room and was working her way through a checklist of questions. This one happened to be about a check-up from the neck up. Well, as a matter of fact, funny you should ask, I told her. … Continue reading How I Dealt with My Depression
Are the high-profile episodes of exaggerated claims by NBC’s Brian Williams, Fox News’s Bill O’Reilly and the VA Secretary Robert McDonald unique to guys? Is the tendency to inflate one’s credentials something that is more common to men? Is it a “guy thing”? My personal theory is that, while it might not be a behavior … Continue reading Why Do Guys Exaggerate?
We were such bad-asses back then. Playing poker. Smoking. Drinking beer. Wearing flannel shirts. Honestly, if you saw this gang of youts coming down the street walking toward you, no doubt you would tremble — from laughing so hard. And will you look at those Captain America bedsheets in the background? What up with dat? … Continue reading TBT at About Men Radio
I was saddened to hear the news that Radio Shack was closing many of its doors. My first love with all things electrical began at Radio Shack. When I was a boy, my dad and I would walk from the Castle Hill projects to the Korvette shopping mall and stop by Radio Shack. He would … Continue reading Radio Shack: Real Family Fun
Get a few guys together and there will be at least 10 memorable movie quotes battered about and at least one classic guy movie scene clumsily reenacted. We can’t help it. It is deeply engrained in our nature. Many times, guys will overlook it if the quote referenced doesn’t quite fit the mood or the conversation … Continue reading Memorable Movie Quotes: Why They Matter To Men
It has come to this: After our most recent About Men Radio podcast about men’s clothing and “Daddy jeans,” Pedro Rafael Rosado so guilted me into breaking out a pair of better-fitting jeans (size 36 instead of 38). What is worse is my failed self-ass-ie attempt. Lord, the things I will do for ratings. Listen … Continue reading No More ‘Daddy Jeans’!
A discussion about avoiding the wrath of God by posting something objectionable during Holy Week led to this recent exchange:
In a coming blog post, I will talk about the “Breakfast Club” therapy that About Men Radio contributor Richard Rodriguez and I have created. For now though, I want to share something that happened at our most recent get-together in Allamuchy (yes, it really is a place) in New Jersey. When we were done with … Continue reading A Sign of Friendship
On this episode we discuss the difficult relationship some men have with clothes and developing a personal sense of style. Now before any of you get the idea we’re asking you to aim for the cover of GQ magazine let me set the record straight. We simply suggest that all of us take a little pride in our appearance. … Continue reading Clothes Really Do Make the Man
Inasmuch as Facebook can drive me crazy with its ever-changing features and Swiss cheese-like privacy policies, it has been an amazing platform for reconnecting with former classmates and co-workers. When I posted a link to a story recently, a former colleague weighed in with a comment about a humorous experience we shared that serves as … Continue reading We Are All Our Brothers’ (And Sisters’) Keepers
I have signed up to race in one of those so-called “extreme races” that feature running and mud pits and obstacles. One of the better known ones is Tough Mudder. The one I’ve entered is called the Warrior Dash, which helps raise money for St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital. (If you want to make a … Continue reading Training for the Warrior Dash!
Francis, Francis, Francis. I am so disappointed in you. I would tell you to stand in the corner but in the Oval Office that would be pointless – much like this season’s “House of Cards.” How pointless was it? Let us count the ways… (Spoilers abound here but I assure you, nothing is more spoiled … Continue reading Why “House of Cards” Season 3 Sucked
This is what happens when you come home way after midnight from work, and eat chocolate candy that was given as a gift to your son. You wake up in the morning to discover he’s made a federal case out of it, right down to roping off the “crime scene” and inventorying the “evidence” with … Continue reading CSI: Chocolate Scene Investigations
In keeping with the spirit of Throwback Thursday, About Men Radio’s Richard Rodriguez reached into the archives and pulled out some vintage photos of the AMR crew circa 1987 in Saranac Lake, N.Y. As you can see, we were mere lads back then. But we were rocking the ’80s look hard. Perhaps too hard. (What … Continue reading Throwback Thursday at About Men Radio
It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter. – Marlene Dietrich The passing of Leonard Nimoy was felt strongly by all of us here at About Men Radio and our thoughts go out to his family and friends. It appears that even in death Mr. Nimoy and his co-star on the legendary science fiction … Continue reading AMR 12: Friends Can Be Hard To Come By
About Men Radio reader Christina Tatu saw my story of dealing with a bat making its way into our house and the mayhem that ensued. Here she shares her story: I have my own horror story involving a bat. This was probably seven years ago (before I moved in, because if I had been living there, I … Continue reading A Reader Offers Her Own Bat Horror Story
I have never engaged in a sport or activity that required the use of a helmet. So it was an unnatural feeling to have this gray sphere snugly nested around my noggin as Pedro and I prepared to hurtle ourselves on the bobsled run at Mount Van Hoevenberg in Lake Placid, N.Y. Thanks to the … Continue reading Bobsledding in a Bathtub
The AMR posse, with a few exceptions, aren’t big on sports but they are big on cracking-wise and busting stones. Come to think of it, if either were Olympic events, we’d be nationally ranked and medal contenders for sure. Until the IOC gets their act together and lets us do our thing on a global … Continue reading AMR 11: Olympic Bobsled? Piece O’ Cake.
And lo, at about 11 o’clock at night, a cry was heard throughout the house. My youngest son, downstairs, shrieking for my wife. Meg was in a dead sleep when Dan’s blood-curdling screams echoed through the house. A fire? A burglar? An injury? Worse: A bat had somehow gotten into the house. Dan was watching … Continue reading I’m Batman
As my wife and I sat in the movie theater waiting for “Fifty Shades of Grey” to begin, she squeezed my hand and said: “Are you excited?” “I’m going to be open-minded,” I replied. “Careful,” she teased, “or your brains might fall out.” If only they had. Then my head would have been as vacuous … Continue reading “Fifty Shades of Grey”: A Review From A Guy’s Point of View
Both are hugely popular movies based on controversial bestselling novels but only one will forever be the quintessential “Guy Movie”. While the sexual adventures of Christian and Anastasia in Fifty Shades of Grey are a big hit with female audiences around the world, the operatic tale of the Corleone Family in The Godtfather trilogy continues to fascinate men forty-plus years after the release … Continue reading AMR 10: Fifty Shades of The Godfather
OK! We cry uncle! (Or perhaps more appropriately, we cry out: “Oh, Christian!”) We here at AMR are not immune to the hype about the movie “Fifty Shades of Grey.” We too are riveted by the billionaire with deep-seated unresolved childhood issues that compels him to act out in ways that society deems unacceptable. But enough about … Continue reading Fifty Shades of Grey and Your Sexy Movies
What follows is the tale of my inspiring, gripping, and emotional journey from fretful Older Dad to just plain old Dad. The subtitle should read “How I stopped Worrying and Started Being There for my Kids” Okay, the story isn’t really all that gripping, and it isn’t very emotional either, but I do indulge in way … Continue reading I am an Older Dad and That’s Okay
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Proof of that came many years ago during a Valentine’s Day with the guys, future members of the About Men Radio crew. Unfortunately, none of us had female companions on this amorous holiday so we drowned our frustrations with food. We ended up at an … Continue reading Food As a Substitute for Love
Love is in the air despite the bitter cold and on this episode Chris and I present a survival guide that will help you make it through that most stressful of Hallmark holidays, Valentine’s Day, relatively unscathed. While the entire AMR posse remain hopeless romantics, we believe that forced expressions of love on a single pressure-packed day is no … Continue reading AMR 09: It’s a Love Thing
Years before online dating services like Match and eHarmony were options, I placed a personal ad in the Penny Pincher. The first woman that I went out with called and asked where I would take her. I said that she should pick a place. Siobahn suggested a seafood restaurant. I liked seafood, so I didn’t mind. … Continue reading Dating Disaster Stories
I am not a gun enthusiast or a gun owner but I do confess to having a lifetime romance with toy guns dating back to when I was a boy and we used to play army or cops and robbers. I had a machine gun made of hard plastic from Woolworth’s that I bought for … Continue reading Toy Gun Fun
A study published a few years ago found that the more media college-age men consumed, especially music videos and television, the worse they felt about their bodies. We’re hear to report that some middle-aged men feel the same way. On this episode Chris and Pedro are holed up in the cavernous urban man-cave enjoying Super … Continue reading AMR 08: Body Image Issues Not Just Woman Thing
Us men, we are invincible, right? Maybe it’s “machismo” or just stupidity. I don’t have time for my own well-being, right? Some years ago, I discovered the answer to that question and in the process, faced my mortality. It’s ironic that the night this started, I was attending the funeral of a family man who … Continue reading The Night I Nearly Died
I have a friend in Phoenix who posted a photo of a huge billboard touting the 2015 Super Bowl. When I commented on her post, I said I thought “Super Bowl” was a salad-making contest. I was only half joking. Some men bond around pro sports teams or NASCAR or outdoor recreational sports. Not me. … Continue reading Super Bowl? What Super Bowl?
As Winter Storm Juno 2015 is hitting the Northeast, I remember back to 1997 to a most improbable storm, the April Fool’s Day Blizzard. Both my wife and I went to work, dropped my son off at daycare, and there was snow in the forecast. Of course, we were thinking spring at this time and … Continue reading Snow Foolin’: The April 1st Blizzard of 1997
I discovered a connection between the snow on my rooftop (the white hair, not dandruff, thank you) and the blizzard swirling outside. Here it is: Upon learning that school would be closed, our youngest, a high school junior, was soon coming upstairs to announce that he would be spending time playing with friends in the … Continue reading Sled. Gloves. Boots. Condoms. …Condoms?!
I have never really been much of a hat wearer, even in the most Arctic of weather. It has to get really, really cold for me to want to risk getting “hat hair.” But when the temperatures really do plunge, I have a special hat I trot out for the occasion. Maybe once a season, … Continue reading More Than Just A Hat: A Story of Loss
By Pedro Rafael Rosado One of my favorite scenes from the fifth season of Mad Men perfectly illustrates what we discuss on the latest episode of About Men Radio. In the segment Don Draper, Ken Cosgrove, and their spouses are having dinner at Pete Campbell’s new home in the suburbs. While the men are swapping … Continue reading
This clip from the fifth season of Mad Men perfectly illustrates what we discuss on the latest episode of About Men Radio. In the scene Don Draper, Ken Cosgrove, and their spouses are having dinner at Pete Campbell’s new home in the suburbs. While the men are swapping stories over apéritifs, the woman break into giggles and shrieks … Continue reading AMR 07: Doing It For Ourselves
I am sure you’ve heard the saying “Beer then liquor, never been sicker. Liquor then beer, have no fear.” But have you ever put that slogan to the test? I did one night in my youth, not realizing the consequences of my actions but I did come away with some lifelong lessons. It was a … Continue reading Liquor is Quicker…At Making You Sicker
It was with a tinge of sadness and nostalgia that I read of the death of the creator of Robot from TV’s “Lost in Space.” As a kid, I was a huge fan of the somewhat hokey but for its time, very cool sci-fi series. It had aliens, a pretty set of sisters and, most of all, … Continue reading How I Got My Very Own Robot from “Lost in Space”
This blog post comes to us from a listener who wishes to remain anonymous. We think this story is worth sharing and will resonate with readers at About Men Radio, which is why we have agreed to conceal the author’s identity. In writing about the hardships of being the breadwinner, being laid off and then … Continue reading Is it Worth Finding and Keeping a Job?
Under the heading of “Did that just happen?” comes this development: Our youngest son (Dan, 16) aced his road test and got his driver’s license. As a dad, I was aware that he was taking the road test but put it on my mental backburner in the hopes it might fall behind the stove. Yeah. … Continue reading This S*** Just Got Real
Inspired by Maryland’s Constitutionally-challenged County Commissioner. Enjoy!
The other day I took one of those absurd Facebook quizzes that bombard my feed. You know the ones like, which Biblical character are you? What color best represents you? And, if you were a tree, what kind would it be? (Apologies, Barbara Walters.) This quiz asked a series of questions to determine how much … Continue reading Do I Really Want to Live That Long?
One night in 1985 while out with my AMR brothers cruising around, we almost all checked out. An annual Italian heritage block event was held in our neighborhood in the east Bronx. As was our custom, we would pile into a car and head out. This time it was my car and Zerega Avenue was our destination … Continue reading I’m Drivin’ in My Car…And Getting Into Trouble!
“You got a second, Coach?” Ughhh. The most hated sentence a volunteer parent coach can ever hear. Why? Because nothing good ever follows it. It is always some sort of complaint (my daughter didn’t play enough time), unreasonable request (my daughter should play the whole game) or unsolicited “technical” advice (my daughter should play center … Continue reading “Hey, Coach…”
You read that right. I once shared a “deeeluxe apartment in the sky” with my brother. So what if it was technically a poorly constructed addition built across the roof of two tiny brick buildings with absolutely no heat in the winter and hallways so narrow we could never get adult-sized furniture up the stairs? … Continue reading New Year’s Adventures at my Midtown Penthouse
It’s a Christmas miracle! Just when you thought we’d never foist another one of our knuckleheaded escapades onto the unsuspecting public we unleash the sixth episode of our addictive little gabfest. This time around Silvio joins us from AMR headquarters in Florida while we check in from the AMR Compound deep in the Pennsylvania forest to … Continue reading AMR 06: About Men and Horror TV
When I was a kid, the weeks leading up to Christmas were literally the sweet spot for my Dad and my sisters and I because Mom would be baking up a storm. Butter cookies in the shapes of trees and wreaths with colored crystals sprinkled on them, chocolate chip cookies, peanut butter cookies, linzer tarts, … Continue reading Baking While Intoxicated
Coquito y Empanadas! For the past 23 Christmases I have been able to share the joyous holiday spirit with my lovely wife. We combine two very different Hispanic cultures and customs. To outsiders, Hispanics all seem to be the same because we share the same language from the mother country of Spain, Hispanics vary widely … Continue reading Food and Culture Come Together at the Holidays
Christmas is here, and I remember when I was a young kid and celebrating this joyous holiday with my family, having a ball hanging with so many cousins, aunts and uncles, and my grandparents. Christmas Eve was the night when all of my Mom’s family would gather to celebrate. She was one of seven children, … Continue reading A Grandfather’s Blessing
As a kid, I’d walk around my neighborhood and there would be an endless array of Christmas trees and lights in people’s apartments. It was beautiful going to sleep and miraculously finding presents under the tree the next morning. Thank you, Santa! But we didn’t have a fireplace for him to come down, so we apartment … Continue reading Santa’s Special Key and His Secret Helpers
So here’s an important home maintenance tip from yours truly. I was replacing the propane tank on our home grill in preparation for dinner guests when I decided it would be a good idea to test the pilot lights. Unbeknownst to me, the knobs were in the “on” position, which meant that as soon as … Continue reading Don’t Try This at Home
“Get to the choppa!” “Dead or alive, you’re coming with me.” “Game over man, game over!” Classic movie quotes. Together with my good friends from About Men Radio, we quote our favorites frequently. We are all of the same era, most of us the same age, hitting the mid-century milepost in the same year. We … Continue reading Movies of Yesteryear Are Family Viewing Time of Today
Thanksgiving Day, the whole family is together. My son is home from college, my daughter is making cookies and we just finished preparing the candied yams to bring to the family feast at my brother’s house. Running late as usual, I think we can finally start heading to the van. Wait. My oldest daughter is … Continue reading Thanksgiving Travel: It’s In the Bag
More than a year ago, I had read of a place called Drive A Tank. At this “tank camp” in Kasota, Minn., (its motto: “History. Power. Tanks.”) you can channel your inner Patton, Rommel, or more likely in my case, Dukakis. Powerful rumbling machines that can obliterate whatever’s in their path? A chance to do something completely … Continue reading True Friends Help You Drive A Tank
Most of the AMR crew reached the half-century mark this year and Chris, the baby of the group, wanted to welcome his 50th year on this bright, blue marble in spectacular fashion. His pitch? Let’s ride a tank! Well, El Kaiser abides… and so does Father John. This video gives you a small taste of … Continue reading About Friends: Checking One Off The Old Bucket List
This controversial public service announcement video created by Hollaback, an organization dedicated to ending street harassment is intended to be a social experiment highlighting the routine sexual harassment females deal with daily. It features a young woman walking around New York City for 10 hours and the unwanted attention she gets despite not being dressed provocatively or engaging with … Continue reading About Men: Yes, Slappy, it Really is Harassment
I walked into the cafeteria as Rafael was in the middle of a story. I missed the valuable first part, but what I did hear had me in tears, and then, chuckling. What I heard was, “We were in the hospital late last night and she was on dialysis…and the doctor said that she wouldn’t live through the … Continue reading About Cats: How One Kitty Adopted Me
I am no celebrity worshipper, but I have to confess I was nervous about meeting exercise guru Tony Horton. For my 50th birthday, my bride got me (among other gifts) tickets for this year’s Central PA Health & Fitness Expo at Penn State’s Bryce Jordan Center. The centerpiece of the event was a meet-and-greet with Tony (he … Continue reading About Exercise: Never Too Old To Bring It
“Take your brother with you.” That one line uttered by my mother absolved me from all guilt in the events that transpired on that summer weekend in 1981. It was not my fault but my brother Pablo still points the finger at me. I was forced by that order from Mom to have him come along to the double … Continue reading About Movies: And on That Day, a New Horror Fiend Was Born
Over the years, each generation has had exercise gurus who put their stamp on an era: Jack LaLanne. Jane Fonda. Richard Simmons. For me, it’s Tony Horton. He is the face of an intense workout program known as P90X. (I am pretty sure, after having done these rigorous routines myself, that the “P” in P90X … Continue reading Never Too Late to Feel The Burn or Get Rid of That Goo
I am reasonably sure that the statute of limitations has passed that this story can now be told. And if it hasn’t, oh well. It’s only going to embarrass me and my best buds — as if we haven’t already made that a lifetime pursuit! I spent some time recently walking through Times Square on … Continue reading Wild Oats and the Old Times Square
Like many immigrants I am a product of two cultures. I live in the United States but was raised in a Puerto Rican household. That cultural dichotomy can be difficult to navigate but the food I grew up eating helps keep me firmly in touch with my Latin-American heritage. My mother and grandmother were the rulers of the … Continue reading About Food: Living in Two Worlds
Growing up in a household and family where so much revolved around the kitchen stays with you forever, and I owe my cooking chops and style to the women in my family, especially my mother and her sisters. When asked to talk about how I learned to cook and who influenced me most, it took me … Continue reading About Food: The Place to be Was Always The Kitchen
In Argentina, manly traditions are generally handed down from father to son. Gaucho traditions such as using a facón (a gauchos’ personal knife), throwing boleadoras (a gaucho’s hunting weapon), or making an asado (a gaucho grilled meat feast) are typically the domain of men. Not so in the la Frossia household. I am a man with strong Argentine … Continue reading About Food: A Gaucho Tradition Handed Down…From Mom
Growing up in a house where your mom is first-generation German and dad is second-generation Italian can make for conflicting culinary choices. Because I was a fussy eater (and so too were my younger sisters), mom tended to make pasta and gravy (red sauce) every other Sunday to appeal to our simple tastes. But mom … Continue reading About Food: A Man With a Plan
As a kid, my mom would make a lot of Irish and American dishes, Meatloaf, potatoes, and string beans was a regular staple. However each autumn, my mom would assemble the ingredients for beef stew. When I finally moved out on my own, my parents wanted to know if I was eating, so I decided … Continue reading About Food: An Autumn Staple
It is hard to imagine a world today without our cellphones. For many of us, they have become a permanent attachment to our hand or hip. Does anyone memorize phone numbers anymore? I know I don’t, but I can remember phone numbers to places where I lived more than 20 years ago yet I can’t remember my own children’s … Continue reading Strangest Summer Jobs: Part One
I guess I should start by giving you some background on me. My undergraduate major is in biology. My first job was as a research technician for the chairman of one of the most prestigious hospital dermatology departments in the country, and my graduate degree is in social work, focusing on clinical psychotherapy. I tell … Continue reading Don’t Believe This Photo, Confucius Was Wrong
“Lazarus has risen,” to quote my Dad when I finally awoke from slumber. Chris and Pedro would often call my house when we were teenagers and get my Dad on the line. He would say that “Lazarus was still sleeping.” Getting me up proved harder than some realized. As a teen, my mom would often … Continue reading The Best Cure For Insomnia is Getting Lots of Sleep
Some guys show off their prowess through feats of athleticism (how fast they can run or drive a baseball). Some guys parade their prowess by what car they drive (muscle or luxury sports cars). And some guys measure their value by the quantity and type of women they’ve dated (platinum blondes or twins). Here at … Continue reading Peter Potamus Had Nothing On Us
For anyone who has grown up with pets, the family dog has always been a true member of the family. Recently I experienced the death of an extra-special pet, one that was the first I raised as an adult with my young children. We inquired about Chow Chow puppies from a breeder who we had … Continue reading A Very Good Dog
If cursing were an Olympic sport, my dad would be a gold medalist. As my buddy Pedro has observed about “Mr. M” (as my friends call my dad): “He’s a first-class sweargarian.” I attribute some of dad’s expansive profanity to having grown up in an ethnically mixed neighborhood and to having spent time in the … Continue reading Weaving a Tapestry of Obscenity
During college, I was invited to teach English as a second language in Guatemala. My first experience that we weren’t in America came when my friend Oscar and I were in town. I had just purchased a pair of cowboy boots and we were walking back home through the main square when a Jeep approached. Soldiers … Continue reading We Are Definitely Not In Kansas Anymore
Men and cars. The About Men Posse is not immune to the siren song of the automobile. On this episode the Posse discuss what cars mean to them and how their “rides” have impacted each one of their lives.
The stories you are about to read are true. No names have been changed because there’s no one innocent here. My childhood friend Pedro has been a lifetime instigator-in-chief. From the time I met him nearly 40 years ago, Pedro has been blessed with a cherub’s face that projects such a guilt-less “Who me?” vibe … Continue reading Instigator-In-Chief: The PG-13 Version
The first overseas trip I ever took was when I was in my mid-20s with two of my best friends from junior high school, Ben and Tom. We spent three days in London and six days in Paris. Fighting every urge to overpack, I took just enough clean clothes to get me through about half … Continue reading Parisian Laundry
It was the mid-1980’s and I was working at a summer job. I was fortunate to have a neighbor who employed me, God rest his soul, who in his retirement started a small business selling hot dogs from a converted laundry truck that grew into a restaurant on wheels. He would be up way before … Continue reading Gimme One With Everything
I came across this tree climbing bear and her cubs in my backyard. Maybe not the smartest move on my part getting so close but this is certainly something you don’t see everyday AND those cubs are off the chart adorable.
I am facing a real dilemma. A quandary! Maybe even a predicament… Okay, I might be overstating things a bit, it’s not like I’m losing sleep or anything like that but I can see this becoming a real problem. I haven’t decided on what country to root for in the 2014 FIFA World Cup. Don’t … Continue reading Go! Go! GOAL!
I remember when my cousin worked at Kentucky Fried Chicken to earn money while in college. His mom would make him come through a different entrance to the house because he reeked so badly. I remember thinking: “Ewwwwww! Gross!” Yeah, well thou without stench, cast the first chicken thigh into the fryer. Fast-forward and it’s … Continue reading Hush Puppies Are Up!
Every day we come face to face with issues and problems, deal with our kids, family, friends and co-workers and we bitch and moan but at the end of the day we regroup and get ready for tomorrow. Rarely do we really look at ourselves and say how lucky we are to be able to … Continue reading Extraordinary Circumstances
It’s a very simple equation: If you want to stay in shape you need to eat less and be more active. This week the About Men Posse discuss what motivates them to exercise…and what doesn’t.
Being an old married man means defining yourself as a husband and partner to something greater than yourself…your marriage. Once that ends, for many men and for me, that part of your identity is gone and it takes time to reset your brain and life back to being single and seeing all the great things … Continue reading Dating Again at 50: Be Yourself, So Sayeth the Fresh Prince
Some friendships are forged in pick-up games of basketball, neighborhood games of stickball or friendly games of tag. Mine were cemented in crime scene photos. I was about 13 and active in Boy Scouts. I was a mere Webelo at the time and we had to do some kind of photo essay for a photography … Continue reading Friendship Forged With Ketchup and Cameras
“Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour and it seems like a minute. That’s relativity.” – Albert Einstein It was my first foray into the dating scene in more than 20 years. My first, first date in two decades … Continue reading Dating Again at 50: A Tale of Small Victories
A brilliantly written scene in an episode of the TV drama “Rescue Me” made me laugh and marvel at the insight of the writers. The firefighter character played by Denis Leary has this awkward, round-about conversation with his old man, played by the late Charles Durning. On the surface, they are talking banalities but subtitles … Continue reading Breaking the Man Speak Code
In “A Bronx Tale,” Chazz Palminteri’s mobster character, Sonny, says, “You’re only allowed three great women in your lifetime.” I agree, but I would amend it to say, “You’re only allowed three great loves in your lifetime.” And, with all due respect to all of the beautiful, amazing, smart, and loving women who have been … Continue reading My Three Great Loves