Cookie Monster Confessions

My son enjoys watching a TLC TV series called “My Strange Addiction.” I’ve never seen it but a quick look at its website reveals bizarre stories of a woman who drinks air freshner​s​ (yes, you read that correctly) and a guy who is addicted to looking like Justin Bieber. My addiction is nowhere near as … Continue reading Cookie Monster Confessions

Read More >>

Throwback Thursday at About Men Radio

This photo has a peculiar history. Chris Mele and John O’Connell (looking like they just walked off the cover of GQ magazine) were attending a speech and debate contest at the Bronx High School of Science around 1981. They happened to photobomb this girl, who was getting her picture snapped for the high school’s yearbook. … Continue reading Throwback Thursday at About Men Radio

Read More >>

MegaCon: The Family That CosPlays Together…

As I stroll down a hallway, an 8-foot mechanized cyborg passes by me. Resting in a semi-seated position and staring into a smartphone is a unicorn-headed half human. Further down I see a line of droids ambling away. And wait! Was that Stan Lee?! Did I just bring you into one of my alcohol-induced dreams? … Continue reading MegaCon: The Family That CosPlays Together…

Read More >>

“The Americans”: A Great 80s Throwback

If you think watching “Mad Men” is a time warp, you’ve got to watch the FX TV series “The Americans.” The show, which just wrapped up its third season, is a delight for those of us who came of age in the 1980s. For the uninitiated, the series’ plot centers on a husband and wife … Continue reading “The Americans”: A Great 80s Throwback

Read More >>

Let’s Go Mets! Recalling the 1986 Ticker-Tape Parade

In October 1986, baseball history had been made and Chris Mele and I were ready to experience a ticker-tape parade in the Canyon of Heroes in Lower Manhattan for the World Series Champion New York Mets. We were men with a plan: Chris was going to meet me on Park Row by City Hall, where … Continue reading Let’s Go Mets! Recalling the 1986 Ticker-Tape Parade

Read More >>

Why Do Guys Exaggerate?

Are the high-profile episodes of exaggerated claims by NBC’s Brian Williams, Fox News’s Bill O’Reilly and the VA Secretary Robert McDonald unique to guys? Is the tendency to inflate one’s credentials something that is more common to men? Is it a “guy thing”? My personal theory is that, while it might not be a behavior … Continue reading Why Do Guys Exaggerate?

Read More >>

TBT at About Men Radio

We were such bad-asses back then. Playing poker. Smoking. Drinking beer. Wearing flannel shirts. Honestly, if you saw this gang of youts coming down the street walking toward you, no doubt you would tremble — from laughing so hard. And will you look at those Captain America bedsheets in the background? What up with dat? … Continue reading TBT at About Men Radio

Read More >>

Memorable Movie Quotes: Why They Matter To Men

Get a few guys together and there will be at least 10 memorable movie quotes battered about and at least one classic guy movie scene clumsily reenacted. We can’t help it. It is deeply engrained in our nature. Many times, guys will overlook it if the quote referenced doesn’t quite fit the mood or the conversation … Continue reading Memorable Movie Quotes: Why They Matter To Men

Read More >>

We Are All Our Brothers’ (And Sisters’) Keepers

Inasmuch as Facebook can drive me crazy with its ever-changing features and Swiss cheese-like privacy policies, it has been an amazing platform for reconnecting with former classmates and co-workers. When I posted a link to a story recently, a former colleague weighed in with a comment about a humorous experience we shared that serves as … Continue reading We Are All Our Brothers’ (And Sisters’) Keepers

Read More >>

Training for the Warrior Dash!

I have signed up to race in one of those so-called “extreme races” that feature running and mud pits and obstacles. One of the better known ones is Tough Mudder. The one I’ve entered is called the Warrior Dash, which helps raise money for St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital. (If you want to make a … Continue reading Training for the Warrior Dash!

Read More >>

CSI: Chocolate Scene Investigations

This is what happens when you come home way after midnight from work, and eat chocolate candy that was given as a gift to your son. You wake up in the morning to discover he’s made a federal case out of it, right down to roping off the “crime scene” and inventorying the “evidence” with … Continue reading CSI: Chocolate Scene Investigations

Read More >>

Throwback Thursday at About Men Radio

In keeping with the spirit of Throwback Thursday, About Men Radio’s Richard Rodriguez reached into the archives and pulled out some vintage photos of the AMR crew circa 1987 in Saranac Lake, N.Y. As you can see, we were mere lads back then. But we were rocking the ’80s look hard. Perhaps too hard. (What … Continue reading Throwback Thursday at About Men Radio

Read More >>

AMR 12: Friends Can Be Hard To Come By

It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter. – Marlene Dietrich The passing of Leonard Nimoy was felt strongly by all of us here at About Men Radio and our thoughts go out to his family and friends. It appears that even in death Mr. Nimoy and his co-star on the legendary science fiction … Continue reading AMR 12: Friends Can Be Hard To Come By

Read More >>

“Fifty Shades of Grey”: A Review From A Guy’s Point of View

​As my wife and I sat in the movie theater waiting for “Fifty Shades of Grey” to begin, she squeezed my hand and said: “Are you excited?” “I’m going to be open-minded,” I replied. “Careful,” she teased, “or your brains might fall out.” If only they had. Then my head would have been as vacuous … Continue reading “Fifty Shades of Grey”: A Review From A Guy’s Point of View

Read More >>

AMR 10: Fifty Shades of The Godfather

Both are hugely popular movies based on controversial bestselling novels but only one will forever be the quintessential “Guy Movie”. While the sexual adventures of Christian and Anastasia in Fifty Shades of Grey are a big hit with female audiences around the world, the operatic tale of the Corleone Family in The Godtfather trilogy continues to fascinate men forty-plus years after the release … Continue reading AMR 10: Fifty Shades of The Godfather

Read More >>

Fifty Shades of Grey and Your Sexy Movies

OK! We cry uncle! (Or perhaps more appropriately, we cry out: “Oh, Christian!”) We here at AMR are not immune to the hype about the movie “Fifty Shades of Grey.” We too are riveted by the billionaire with deep-seated unresolved childhood issues that compels him to act out in ways that society deems unacceptable. But enough about … Continue reading Fifty Shades of Grey and Your Sexy Movies

Read More >>

I am an Older Dad and That’s Okay

What follows is the tale of my inspiring, gripping, and emotional journey from fretful Older Dad to just plain old Dad. The subtitle should read “How I stopped Worrying and Started Being There for my Kids” Okay, the story isn’t really all that gripping, and it isn’t very emotional either, but I do indulge in way … Continue reading I am an Older Dad and That’s Okay

Read More >>

AMR 09: It’s a Love Thing

Love is in the air despite the bitter cold and on this episode Chris and I present a survival guide that will help you make it through that most stressful of Hallmark holidays, Valentine’s Day, relatively unscathed. While the entire AMR posse remain hopeless romantics, we believe that forced expressions of love on a single pressure-packed day is no … Continue reading AMR 09: It’s a Love Thing

Read More >>

AMR 08: Body Image Issues Not Just Woman Thing

A study published a few years ago found that the more media college-age men consumed, especially music videos and television, the worse they felt about their bodies. We’re hear to report that some middle-aged men feel the same way. On this episode Chris and Pedro are holed up in the cavernous urban man-cave enjoying Super … Continue reading AMR 08: Body Image Issues Not Just Woman Thing

Read More >>

Snow Foolin’: The April 1st Blizzard of 1997

As Winter Storm Juno 2015 is hitting the Northeast, I remember back to 1997 to a most improbable storm, the April Fool’s Day Blizzard. Both my wife and I went to work, dropped my son off at daycare, and there was snow in the forecast.  Of course, we were thinking spring at this time and … Continue reading Snow Foolin’: The April 1st Blizzard of 1997

Read More >>

Sled. Gloves. Boots. Condoms. …Condoms?!

I discovered a connection between the snow on my rooftop (the white hair, not dandruff, thank you) and the blizzard swirling outside. Here it is: Upon learning that school would be closed, our youngest, a high school junior, was soon coming upstairs to announce that he would be spending time playing with friends in the … Continue reading Sled. Gloves. Boots. Condoms. …Condoms?!

Read More >>

AMR 07: Doing It For Ourselves

This clip from the fifth season of Mad Men perfectly illustrates what we discuss on the latest episode of About Men Radio. In the scene Don Draper, Ken Cosgrove, and their spouses are having dinner at Pete Campbell’s new home in the suburbs. While the men are swapping stories over apéritifs, the woman break into giggles and shrieks … Continue reading AMR 07: Doing It For Ourselves

Read More >>

How I Got My Very Own Robot from “Lost in Space”

It was with a tinge of sadness and nostalgia that I read of the death of the creator of Robot from TV’s “Lost in Space.” As a kid, I was a huge fan of the somewhat hokey but for its time, very cool sci-fi series. It had aliens, a pretty set of sisters and, most of all, … Continue reading How I Got My Very Own Robot from “Lost in Space”

Read More >>

I’m Drivin’ in My Car…And Getting Into Trouble!

One night in 1985 while out with my AMR brothers cruising around, we almost all checked out. An annual Italian heritage block event was held in our neighborhood in the east Bronx. As was our custom, we would pile into a car and head out. This time it was my car and Zerega Avenue was our destination … Continue reading I’m Drivin’ in My Car…And Getting Into Trouble!

Read More >>

New Year’s Adventures at my Midtown Penthouse

You read that right. I once shared a “deeeluxe apartment in the sky” with my brother. So what if it was technically a poorly constructed addition built across the roof of two tiny brick buildings with absolutely no heat in the winter and hallways so narrow we could never get adult-sized furniture up the stairs? … Continue reading New Year’s Adventures at my Midtown Penthouse

Read More >>

AMR 06: About Men and Horror TV

It’s a Christmas miracle! Just when you thought we’d never foist another one of our knuckleheaded escapades onto the unsuspecting public we unleash the sixth episode of our addictive little gabfest. This time around Silvio joins us from AMR headquarters in Florida while we check in from the AMR Compound deep in the Pennsylvania forest to … Continue reading AMR 06: About Men and Horror TV

Read More >>

Food and Culture Come Together at the Holidays

Coquito y Empanadas! For the past 23 Christmases I have been able to share the joyous holiday spirit with my lovely wife. We combine two very different Hispanic cultures and customs. To outsiders, Hispanics all seem to be the same because we share the same language from the mother country of Spain, Hispanics vary widely … Continue reading Food and Culture Come Together at the Holidays

Read More >>

Santa’s Special Key and His Secret Helpers

As a kid, I’d walk around my neighborhood and there would be an endless array of Christmas trees and lights in people’s apartments. It was beautiful going to sleep and miraculously finding presents under the tree the next morning.  Thank you, Santa! But we didn’t have a fireplace for him to come down, so we apartment … Continue reading Santa’s Special Key and His Secret Helpers

Read More >>

Movies of Yesteryear Are Family Viewing Time of Today

“Get to the choppa!” “Dead or alive, you’re coming with me.” “Game over man, game over!” Classic movie quotes. Together with my good friends from About Men Radio, we quote our favorites frequently. We are all of the same era, most of us the same age, hitting the mid-century milepost in the same year. We … Continue reading Movies of Yesteryear Are Family Viewing Time of Today

Read More >>

True Friends Help You Drive A Tank

More than a year ago, I had read of a place called Drive A Tank. At this “tank camp” in Kasota, Minn., (its motto: “History. Power. Tanks.”) you can channel your inner Patton, Rommel, or more likely in my case,  Dukakis. Powerful rumbling machines that can obliterate whatever’s in their path? A chance to do something completely … Continue reading True Friends Help You Drive A Tank

Read More >>

About Friends: Checking One Off The Old Bucket List

Most of the AMR crew reached the half-century mark this year and Chris, the baby of the group, wanted to welcome his 50th year on this bright, blue marble in spectacular fashion. His pitch? Let’s ride a tank! Well, El Kaiser abides… and so does Father John. This video gives you a small taste of … Continue reading About Friends: Checking One Off The Old Bucket List

Read More >>

About Men: Yes, Slappy, it Really is Harassment

This controversial public service announcement video created by Hollaback, an organization dedicated to ending street harassment is intended to be a social experiment highlighting the routine sexual harassment females deal with daily. It features a young woman walking around New York City for 10 hours and the unwanted attention she gets despite not being dressed provocatively or engaging with … Continue reading About Men: Yes, Slappy, it Really is Harassment

Read More >>

About Exercise: Never Too Old To Bring It

I am no celebrity worshipper, but I have to confess I was nervous about meeting exercise guru Tony Horton. For my 50th birthday, my bride got me (among other gifts) tickets for this year’s Central PA Health & Fitness Expo at Penn State’s Bryce Jordan Center. The centerpiece of the event was a meet-and-greet with Tony (he … Continue reading About Exercise: Never Too Old To Bring It

Read More >>

About Movies: And on That Day, a New Horror Fiend Was Born

“Take your brother with you.” That one line uttered by my mother absolved me from all guilt in the events that transpired on that summer weekend in 1981. It was not my fault but my brother Pablo still points the finger at me. I was forced by that order from Mom to have him come along to the double … Continue reading About Movies: And on That Day, a New Horror Fiend Was Born

Read More >>

Never Too Late to Feel The Burn or Get Rid of That Goo

Over the years, each generation has had exercise gurus who put their stamp on an era: Jack LaLanne. Jane Fonda. Richard Simmons. For me, it’s Tony Horton. He is the face of an intense workout program known as P90X. (I am pretty sure, after having done these rigorous routines myself, that the “P” in P90X … Continue reading Never Too Late to Feel The Burn or Get Rid of That Goo

Read More >>

About Food: Living in Two Worlds

Like many immigrants I am a product of two cultures. I live in the United States but was raised in a Puerto Rican household. That cultural dichotomy can be difficult to navigate but the food I grew up eating helps keep me firmly in touch with my Latin-American heritage. My mother and grandmother were the rulers of the … Continue reading About Food: Living in Two Worlds

Read More >>

About Food: A Gaucho Tradition Handed Down…From Mom

In Argentina, manly traditions are generally handed down from father to son. Gaucho traditions such as using a facón (a gauchos’ personal knife), throwing boleadoras (a gaucho’s hunting weapon), or making an asado (a gaucho grilled meat feast) are typically the domain of men. Not so in the la Frossia household. I am a man with strong Argentine … Continue reading About Food: A Gaucho Tradition Handed Down…From Mom

Read More >>

About Food: A Man With a Plan

Growing up in a house where your mom is first-generation German and dad is second-generation Italian can make for conflicting culinary choices. Because I was a fussy eater (and so too were my younger sisters), mom tended to make pasta and gravy (red sauce) every other Sunday to appeal to our simple tastes. But mom … Continue reading About Food: A Man With a Plan

Read More >>

Strangest Summer Jobs: Part One

It is hard to imagine a world today without our cellphones. For many of us, they have become a permanent attachment to our hand or hip. Does anyone memorize phone numbers anymore?  I know I don’t, but I can remember phone numbers to places where I lived more than 20 years ago yet I can’t remember my own children’s … Continue reading Strangest Summer Jobs: Part One

Read More >>

Don’t Believe This Photo, Confucius Was Wrong

I guess I should start by giving you some background on me. My undergraduate major is in biology. My first job was as a research technician for the chairman of one of the most prestigious hospital dermatology departments in the country, and my graduate degree is in social work, focusing on clinical psychotherapy. I tell … Continue reading Don’t Believe This Photo, Confucius Was Wrong

Read More >>

Peter Potamus Had Nothing On Us

Some guys show off their prowess through feats of athleticism (how fast they can run or drive a baseball). Some guys parade their prowess by what car they drive (muscle or luxury sports cars). And some guys measure their value by the quantity and type of women they’ve dated (platinum blondes or twins). Here at … Continue reading Peter Potamus Had Nothing On Us

Read More >>

Weaving a Tapestry of Obscenity

If cursing were an Olympic sport, my dad would be a gold medalist. As my buddy Pedro has observed about “Mr. M” (as my friends call my dad): “He’s a first-class sweargarian.” I attribute some of dad’s expansive profanity to having grown up in an ethnically mixed neighborhood and to having spent time in the … Continue reading Weaving a Tapestry of Obscenity

Read More >>

We Are Definitely Not In Kansas Anymore

During college, I was invited to teach English as a second language in Guatemala.  My first experience that we weren’t in America came when my friend Oscar and I were in town. I had just purchased a pair of cowboy boots and we were walking back home through the main square when a Jeep approached.  Soldiers … Continue reading We Are Definitely Not In Kansas Anymore

Read More >>

Instigator-In-Chief: The PG-13 Version

The stories you are about to read are true. No names have been changed because there’s no one innocent here. My childhood friend Pedro has been a lifetime instigator-in-chief. From the time I met him nearly 40 years ago, Pedro has been blessed with a cherub’s face that projects such a guilt-less “Who me?” vibe … Continue reading Instigator-In-Chief: The PG-13 Version

Read More >>

Hush Puppies Are Up!

I remember when my cousin worked at Kentucky Fried Chicken to earn money while in college. His mom would make him come through a different entrance to the house because he reeked so badly. I remember thinking: “Ewwwwww! Gross!” Yeah, well thou without stench, cast the first chicken thigh into the fryer. Fast-forward and it’s … Continue reading Hush Puppies Are Up!

Read More >>

Dating Again at 50: Be Yourself, So Sayeth the Fresh Prince

Being an old married man means defining yourself as a husband and partner to something greater than yourself…your marriage. Once that ends, for many men and for me, that part of your identity is gone and it takes time to reset your brain and life back to being single and seeing all the great things … Continue reading Dating Again at 50: Be Yourself, So Sayeth the Fresh Prince

Read More >>

Friendship Forged With Ketchup and Cameras

Some friendships are forged in pick-up games of basketball, neighborhood games of stickball or friendly games of tag. Mine were cemented in crime scene photos. I was about 13 and active in Boy Scouts. I was a mere Webelo at the time and we had to do some kind of photo essay for a photography … Continue reading Friendship Forged With Ketchup and Cameras

Read More >>

Breaking the Man Speak Code

A brilliantly written scene in an episode of the TV drama “Rescue Me” made me laugh and marvel at the insight of the writers. The firefighter character played by Denis Leary has this awkward, round-about conversation with his old man, played by the late Charles Durning. On the surface, they are talking banalities but subtitles … Continue reading Breaking the Man Speak Code

Read More >>

My Three Great Loves

In “A Bronx Tale,” Chazz Palminteri’s mobster character, Sonny, says, “You’re only allowed three great women in your lifetime.” I agree, but I would amend it to say, “You’re only allowed three great loves in your lifetime.” And, with all due respect to all of the beautiful, amazing, smart, and loving women who have been … Continue reading My Three Great Loves

Read More >>

Not All Men. Just Us Men.