“All kings should have scars.”
That was what Queen Cersei said to her son Joffrey, who was soon to become king on “Game of Thrones.”
As hated as both of those characters were by fans, I have to agree. Scars are reminders of a battle, won or lost, that have left their mark.
Scars have a strengthening quality. For instance, where skin scars, it becomes tougher. All successful marriages have them — they are healthy and necessary for the longevity of the union.
My marriage to my high school sweetheart started with an eight-year courtship, and in May, we celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary.
This story, though, is about some of the physical scars that I carry on my wedding band.
I had been taking it off regularly to play guitar.
It felt a little weird while I fretted certain songs and then I sometimes forgot to put it back on when I went to work.
In fact, it was at work when my ring got some of its scars.
There were metal filing cabinets, each about six feet tall, filled with CDs, tapes, disk drives and other media.
Suffice to say, they were very, very heavy.
Building operations people were scheduled to move them but I decided to do it on my own.
I put two cabinets in place, and was moving a third when it slipped off the dolly and caught my hand between it and another one, right on the corners of both cabinets.
Thankfully I had remembered to put my ring on.
If I didn’t have the ring to absorb most of the impact, I shudder to think of what would have happened to my finger.
It was crushed onto my finger.
I used a set of channel lock pliers to reshape it and get it off.
But I won’t fix it with a jeweler.
That physical scar is a forever reminder of how a symbol of love and loyalty saved my finger because I remembered to put it back on.
Now I don’t remove it anymore.
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