A scene at the end of an episode of “10 reasons why online dating is good” has the character Claire (the mother of three) complaining that the kids unfriended her again on Facebook and how then is she supposed to know what is going on in the kids’ lives?
It crystallized for me something I have experienced with my sons: The oldest used to be pretty active on Facebook but has all but disappeared (he is away at college) and the youngest (soon to be 17), blocks me on Twitter!
When I asked about this recently, he emailed me to say that “I block with love, padre.”
It makes me awfully split-brained, with the conversation going something like this:
Rational Me: What do you expect? He is almost 17. When you were almost 17, would you have wanted to share your remarks with friends with your dad?
Emotional Me: No, of course not. But I am a cool dad. I understand social media and it’s not like I would stalk every tweet he posted.
Rational Me: Really?! I find that hard to believe…
Emotional Me: OK, well maybe I would look at every other one…Besides, it is another indication of how he is coming into his own and becoming his own person.
Rational Me: Yeah, dummy. You are the one always preaching that parenthood is about giving kids roots and wings.
Emotional Me: Oh yeah. Right.
What is your relationship like with your kids vis a vis social media?
Are you friends with them? Do you follow them on Twitter or Instagram? Or do they block out you in the virtual world as much they do in the real world?
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